I was asked this once. Not because I’m a misfit, not because my family disowns me, but solely because I’m gay. This person didn’t think my family would support me enough to attend my own wedding, whenever that special day comes.
Here’s a little background info: I was raised a Christian. I realized I was gay. The Christians in my white hick town don’t like that, for the majority. I stopped associating myself with these bigots.
I got a boyfriend. We posted on Facebook that we were engaged. A family friend thought it was appropriate to send me a message in regards to that. The funny thing: she used to be one of my babysitters.
She sent this message. Yes, I saved it, for this very reason: so I could share her uneducated ideology.
All quotations and capitalizations were of her own accord. I didn’t do it. Allllll her…
I have for a while now had a heavy heart when it comes to your CHOICE of lifestyle. I look back to when you were baptized, thinking about going to BIBLE SCHOOL and making your life count for God… What happened?!?!?!?!
Now to hear about your “engagement?” To be honest it made me very sad that you have chosen to go down this road. I believe that you are playing in Satan’s playground and that God is faithful and you will be brought back with open arms to His kingdom. To be honest Markus, do you think that when you “get married” that your family will be there? Do you think that they will be excited? Really?! I don’t know what is going on with you but I pray for you that you will see the light, that your blinders will be taken off and that you will come back to you and I TRULY believe with all my heart that you are just out building your testimony. I don’t know for how long, but I will continue to pray until you come back to the kingdom.
I was reading my bible one day and I believe that God wants me to give you this word…..
Man and woman are made physically, emotionally, and spiritually different; yet they are designed by God to COMPLEMENT each other. “Become one flesh” combines ALL aspects of life. This is intended not only for procreation but of MUTUALLY meeting needs and is an illustration of the relationship between God and his bride, the church.
One last thing… scriptures state that homosexual behavior is an abomination to God. It distorts the oneness God intended in the sexual union between a WOMAN AND MAN, and defies childbirth, therefore eventually terminating the generations. On a positive note, for those who have participated in this sinful lifestyle, there is mercy and forgiveness (1 cor. 6:9-11) and you are not “trapped” in your genetic makeup and you can change (1 cor. 6:11) “In the past some of you where like that but you were washed clean. You were made holy and you were made right with God in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.”
I pray Markus that you take this with love and not condemnation and know that I am NOT judging you, but speaking in love like a sister, as you are family to me!!”
And that was her message.
You can imagine how I initially wanted to respond. I wanted to be immature and rude and just tell her to jump off a bridge. But I didn’t.
Or, I could have been sarcastic and written something back like: “Omg, thanks for this message. My eyes are open now, and I know I’ve been a bad boy. I’m straight again; do you know any girls I can get pregnant?” But I didn’t do that either.
I took this chance as an opportunity to educate her. So I did my own little research and wrote back to her:
“Hey [Moronic Shrew],
I thank you for your concern, but you mustn’t worry yourself so much.
I understand not all of my family members are able to accept that I love [George] and that he loves me. It’s funny though, seeing as God is Love, is he not? [George] and I aren’t stirring hate, we’re expressing love.
Most condemnation of homosexuality is passed down by those who misquote the Bible constantly, taking things out of context and using it for their purpose. This was popularly done towards interracial couples and interracial marriages. People still misquote for whatever they want.
However, if people were to perhaps study the subject themselves and not reiterate what someone else said, they’d discover:
A) Jesus says nothing about same-sex behavior.
B) The Jewish prophets are silent about homosexuality.
C) Only six or seven of the Bible’s one million verses refer to same-sex behavior in any way — and none of these verses refer to homosexual orientation as it’s understood today.
The Bible is a book about God; not a book about human sexuality. Whatever was repeated constantly in the Bible is what was most important. Heck, the Bible (as some analysts say) has over 700 verses on JUST finances. That’s a hell of lot more than 7 verses taken out of context to condemn homosexuality.
In fact, the Bible accepts sexual practices that we condemn today, yet it condemns sexual practices that we accept. Lots of them! Here are a few examples. Feel free to find more of your own:
If it is discovered that a bride is not a virgin, the Bible demands that she be executed by stoning immediately.
If a married person has sex with someone else’s husband or wife, the Bible commands that both adulterers be stoned to death.
Divorce is strictly forbidden in both Testaments, as is remarriage of anyone who has been divorced.
If a man dies childless, his widow is ordered by biblical law to have intercourse with each of his brothers in turn until she bears her deceased husband a male heir.
Do not plant two kinds of seed in the same field, and do not wear clothes made with two different materials.
Do not cut your hair or trim your beard! Do not cut dead bodies (autopsies) or tattoo yourself.
If a man gets into a fight with another man and his wife seeks to rescue her husband by grabbing the enemy’s genitals, her hand shall be cut off and no pity shall be shown her.
Do we really follow those laws nowadays? No, we don’t. Those laws were made for the people of that time. Our times have changed. The main laws that should continue to apply regardless are the Ten Commandments.
Believe what you will, but remember what Jesus said: “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” (John 15:12).
That, to me, means loving and dealing with their possible flaws. Don’t get me wrong here; my being gay is NOT a flaw. NOR a choice as you aforementioned.
That aside, hope all is well with you and your fam.”
And THAT, my friends, was my response to Moronic Shrew. BAM! Oh, it felt SO GOOD sending that to her!
But like seriously, if we followed any of those laws nowadays, we’d be a disaster. My parents are both divorced AND remarried… I’ll need a handful of stones to fix that “sin.”
It just frustrates me to no end how impractical people are when they refer to old scriptures that are a bazillion years old.
Oh, and let’s not forget the law where the women had to go into exile during their menstrual period. Ha! You know that one was written by the men who couldn’t handle moody women.
Upon seeing this exact blog post, Moronic Shrew actually sent me a message in response:
After reading your blog I just wanted to say the reason I didn’t respond to your email was not because you blew me away with how you see the bible but because what’s the point?! It’s like a blind man being healed and able to see but still thinks he is blind, even knowing you tell him he can see, he still believes he is right and can’t see… So we shall agree to disagree on this issue and allow time to sort this out.”
I simply replied with, “Agreed to disagree.” I haven’t seen or spoken to her since.
The point of sharing this story? To make people realize that LGBT people are still fighting for their rights to be treated as equally as any other human, all over the world. So, yes, educating others and standing up for your LGBT friends is still something you can do. We don’t need negative naysayers in our lives; merely purge them.
Emotions are a universal truth. Just watch this short video and see for yourself:
I’m a softie. I just watched it and shed a tear.
Have a good week y’all!!! Stand up for one of your LGBT friends this month! Spread the love! ❤